Last time out, I offered some tips on how any leader could actively sabotage their team—not for the purpose of helping them actually do it, but hopefully as a cautionary tale. Today, I asked myself, “Why should leaders have all the fun?” while simultaneously asking, “Why should everyone but leaders be exempt from responsibility […]
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informed informalityI spend a lot of time writing about how people can make things better. But what if we entered a mirror universe where I shared how to make things worse for those around you? Could there be something of value learned? I hope so, because I am committing to this concept for the next
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informed informalityWe use several tools as we go about our day. Sometimes we draw on what we know, sometimes we get ahead by applying what we know in a certain way. But often, we can make use of what we don’t know, by channeling our curiosity—even if we’re not always encouraged to be curious. Curiosity gets
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informed informalityThis semester, I am teaching an Honors seminar on the history of conspiracy theories. I find that what I teach influences how I frame my day job, ombudsing/mediation/conflict resolution. When I teach about jazz history, I focus on conflict resolution as a collective improvisation. When covering video games, I consider the ludic aspects of a
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informed informalityWe’ve all been there. You are at work, school, or another professional setting, and someone says something to you or someone else that strikes you as remarkably unprofessional. What can you do? First, let’s define our topic. I take communication as “the exchange of thoughts, messages, or information, as by speech, signals, writing, or behavior.”
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informed informalityVrin! I don’t know if that’s how you spell it, but that’s how I’ve seen it most frequently, so “vrin!” it is. What, you may be wondering, do I mean by “vrin?” It’s the sound Hornet makes when she heals, in Hollow Knight: Silksong. You can hear it right here. She says it four
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informed informalityDo you have the will to stop doomscrolling for a minute and celebrate something positive? I hope so, because that means you might let me share my thoughts about a video game whose development history is a welcome counterbalance to the industry-typical cycle of crunch, stress, and toxicity. It turns out that there might
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informed informalityFor some of you reading this, the school year is starting again, which means you are back in the classroom, either as a student or instructor. For others, there’s nothing particularly educationally significant about this season. Still, I feel compelled to talk a little about part of learning that we don’t often hear about: vulnerability.
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informed informalityRecently I’ve been in the position of explaining just exactly what ombuds and mediators do, and how informal conflict resolution differs from the formal disposition of complaints. I know, it sounds like a delightfully dry way to pass the time, but it seemed more exciting when I was in the middle of it. Anyway,
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informed informalityI would like to take a minute to share some book news. The audio version of Something For Your Money is now available on Audible and Amazon. That completes the platform trifecta, more or less: the book is now available in print (hardcover and paperback), ebook (more platforms than I can mention), and audio, which
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book, informed informalityI will set the stage. You are in a large group, talking about a subject about which you consider yourself well informed. Someone lays out a hypothetical scenario, turns to you, and asks, “What would you do next?” You freeze. It’s not nerves, per se—you don’t have stage fright. It’s just a feeling that,
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informed informalityI recently presented a workshop as part of UNLV’s Administrative Faculty Development Day that helped participants better understand their legacy by examining their values, purpose, and mission. I’d like to share a little bit of it with you. I even have a few writing prompts if you want to join in the fun. First, why
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informed informalityLas Vegas celebrated a birthday last week—its 120th, to be precise. That’s a nice, round, biblical number, so it is an occasion for some reflection on the last 12 decades of Las Vegas. Befitting a town inexorably linked with gambling, that history has had many unexpected turns. Las Vegas as a city was a creation
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informed informality, life in vegasHow we feel about cryptids poses an interesting exercise in how we approach the frightening and unusual, which might have some implications about how we connect with each other over our fears. According to J. W. Ocker’s The United States of Cryptids: A Tour of American Myths and Monsters, a cryptid is “a creature or
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informed informalityIn my last column, I talked about why it can be so difficult for us to articulate what we want, to say what we need to be happy. In other words, why do people struggle to know the outcome that they want? My quick answer is that it may be because no one has asked
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informed informalityPeople have a lot of reasons not to be happy. Many of them anyone would understand, while some might be confusing to others. There are several things that stand in the way of your average human being and happiness, but the biggest obstacle in achieving a modicum of contentment might be being unable to say
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informed informalityDon’t worry, this isn’t a parable about overcoming obstacles along the air-conditioned, controlled environment of an indoor rock-climbing wall. I’m not going to wax in a philosophical direction about lessons we can learn about adversity and determination while feeling for the next handhold. I wouldn’t do that to you. No, I’m going to talk
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informed informalityIn my work as an organizational ombuds, I talk with people who are frustrated for a number of reasons. Most people who come to see me are not happy about something, but the most distressed tend to be those who feel that they are not being heard. I would like to break down five stages
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informed informalityEven though I am a full-time ombuds, I still teach one seminar a semester. I’d like to share a few thoughts about how my current course subject, alternate history, might apply to interpersonal communication and conflict resolution. Alternate history is a genre of fiction that simply asks, “What if?” What if Antony won the battle
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informed informalityAs an ombuds, I talk every day with people who are stressed by work. I am also aware that there are numerous self-care resources, and numerous official exhortations to use said resources. And yet I continue to talk with people who are stressed out about work. Some comments I’ve heard have got me thinking that
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